“Not often enough” topped the list of complaints by men in all four countries while the main complaint of wives was not enough romance.
So, I don’t think this little headline requires any explanation. In honor of Valentine’s Day we see a million ads, activities, and articles telling us the best thing to do for/with/to our Valentine.
Moonlit hikes with a mouthy mountain man for a guide. Million dollar jewelry sets from the Queen of Sheba’s personal collection. Couples Massage classes. These all sound good in theory. Until you figure in bugs, wierdos, and $$$. Balloon rides, Forest Picnics beside a stream, and Skywriting top the list of impractical ideas that were recommended to me this year.
So, barring millionaires and embittered single people (I’ll address them in a little bit), the message seems to be pretty clear: GUYS, dress it up a little bit. GALS, dress it down!
So, to all the guys out there, a couple suggestions that won’t break the bank. First, read this article about the senses. Next, Run, don’t walk to your local bookstore and pick up Naughty or Nice, or Romantic Ideas for the Average Guy. I own both of these books and aside from their being a little gay at some points, they do have some solid material for couples who have been together for a while and have hit that comfortable lull; affectionately known as “The Headache.”
Now, gals. No substitutes, tell by showing. If you dig what he does, dress it down. I’m not saying you need to surprise him in your lingerie after he finishes the dishes or anything (although that would be a perfect place to start), but give him some hands on. Give him something you know he loves in the bedroom, even if it isn’t your favorite activity.
The ultimate win/win Valentine’s Day activity: Vicky C’s. Plan a field trip to Victoria’s Secret. Guys, decide on your budget before you go. Give your input but let her make the final decision, and don’t make a face even if you liked something better. Remember this isn’t about the wrapping, but the present. The more she likes it, the more sexy she will feel, the better your present will be.
The important part is to have fun. If you try to do anything too serious or involved it will invariably go wrong. Don’t do anything crazy like propose!!! Take a lesson from good old Saint Valentine who was KILLED for marrying people! Take it easy, you’ll thank me for it.
I promised to address the embittered lonely hearts. Here it is: Love Sucks Movie Marathon. Going with a great Valentine’s themed movie for the angry jaded persuasion, The Truth About Love gets an honorable mention. It will cure your love jones in a tainted heartbeat.
Oh, and you millionaires? My paypal is dnilson1@yahoo.com. I’m available for consultation.
I think a nice modern woman would realize Valentine’s Day is much-a-do about nothing. During the period of one’s relationship much care and thoughtfulness would seem gift enough.
Each in the couple stress over the giving each year at this time. In the 21st Century, rites such as this are archaic.
Oh, cmon… I think they are delightfully classic. And you are right, a modern woman wouldn’t make a big deal out of this… like dumping her man if he didn’t get her the $5,000 tennis bracelet she wanted. But it’s fun to have days like this. IMHO, birthdays are to celebrate someones birth, because you are glad they are alive. Valentine’s is a day to celebrate the life of the relationship. Similar. One could argue that anniversaries are better suited. But who doesn’t like dead catholic saints? C’mon.
As a modern woman (albeit a bit weird) I just have one question:
What the hell is a tennis bracelet??